Busy Life as a Caregiver - juggle to survive
The days are long, but not long enough.
Now, add being a caregiver of a loved one with chronic illness on top of those long draining days. Some days seem impossible. No doubt, care-giving is a full-time job in itself. Double dose of draining if you’re a mom with kids on top of being a caregiver is beyond an unimaginable drain to the core.
Juggling your own schedule, your children’s schedule and someone you give day in and day out care for schedule can become hectic, overwhelming and some days feel right down hopeless.
Over the past 18 years I’ve learned how to ease the stresses of ensuring kids get where they need to go and at the same time of giving the care my husband deserves.
I get questioned all the time “how do you do it and still remain sane?”
Is it easy? Absolutely not! However, I push through. I push through every single day, one day at a time. One step in front of the other.
Keep your composure, keep your thoughts focused and do it without complaining are the keys to maintaining your sanity. If you run around like a chicken with your head cut off, complain to every person that asks how you’re doing or looking like a frazzled disaster. Then, that is how you’re going to feel.
Changing your mindset to how you want to feel is my trick. If I lose my everlasting mind and go into the day thinking of everything I have to do with a negative mind, then that is how it will go.
Mind over matter:
Kick start your brain by going into each day with a positive mindset. I can not stress how important this is.
Shift your brain to focus by prioritizing the to-do list. This will help lessen your brain fog and prevent all your tasks from spinning into a world wind.
Lastly, one foot in front of the other, smile, have fun, make it a good day.
Why ruin your day or life? You’ve got one life! Just because your plate is full doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. So get a grip and just get it done.
If someone ask how you are say “great” or “good”, do no get stuck into complaining about how much you have to do on top of blah blah.. That is shifting your mind right back to gutter. Negative place. A no-no.
Also, having a support system is a big bonus. Before I could swallow my pride thinking I could do everything myself, I had to learn to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with asking. My mom and friends have been my lifeline, they lend a hand to make sure my kids get where they need to go because let’s face it, I physically can not be everywhere I need to be at one time. Regardless that I convinced myself otherwise.
I have had to leave my husband on many occasions while he wasn’t feeling good because my kids had to be at baseball or cheer practice. On days he was really bad, I’ve called in my army of moms or my own mom to help with carpooling the kids.
It’s ok to lean on others for help. But what’s not ok is losing your mind in the process. Keep your thoughts together, avoid complaining and remain positive are life savers.
I’d love to hear from you on how you juggle your life and how you apply positivity beating out the negatives.
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It's ok to fall down and cry, but it's not ok to stay there.
xoxo, Becca Hello. Normal.